Ask Amy: Misdirected email about passing gas gets blasted across the internet. ‘Should I apologize?’

Ask Amy: Misdirected email about passing gas gets blasted across the internet. ‘Should I apologize?’

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Dear Amy: My friend “Tyler” and I decided to try a yoga class.

As we were doing the first position, he passed gas. Very audibly! It was super-awkward, but then he said, “Excuse me! Sounds like I started things with a bang.”

People chuckled and the class went on.

I thought Tyler’s recovery from an ultra-embarrassing moment was great, so I mentioned it in an email to a mutual friend of ours, but I stupidly and accidentally sent it to the wrong person (a near-stranger I’d exchanged a couple of emails with a couple of years ago).

The person who received the email posted a screenshot of it on social media with the message: “I got an email about a dude who farted!”

Her posting was reposted many times by her impressive number of followers. The email had Tyler’s actual first and last name and some details about where we live.

I was horrified and insisted that she delete her posting, and she did – but of course it is still “out there,” floating around on the internet.

Should I tell Tyler what happened or hope he never hears about it?

– Downward-Facing Dope

Dear Downward Dope: This person’s choice to post the content of your email (including names and personal details) was extremely unethical.

And social media enables and amplifies unethical choices.

Because “Tyler’s” personal details were broadcast across social media channels, you must tell him about this unfortunate episode.

Like many unfortunate episodes, this one started out benignly, built up some steam, and then escaped on its own – like an audible bubble of gas at a yoga class.

Own your part in this, apologize profusely, and ask to be forgiven.

I hope you two are able to resolve this with a mutual “Namaste” and successfully move on in a respectful friendship.

Tyler sounds like a quick-witted, amiable, and confident person. Because of this, I predict a sweet (smelling) outcome.

I hope you’ll let me know how things turn out.

Dear Amy: “Desperate Phone Hostage” was trapped on lengthy phone calls with monologists.

As soon as she picks up the phone, she can greet the caller and say, “I’ve only got five minutes before I need to go, so what’s up?”

Holding firm to the time limit will help.

– Previous Hostage Released

Dear Released: I endorse your technique.

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